SECRET OF A LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIP

A man, much reserved by nature, was very hesitant to ask his boss for a raise in salary. One Friday morning he got up and told his wife, “I will do it today darling. I shall ask my boss for a raise in a salary.” As the man came to his office, he was extremely nervous, anxious and very apprehensive all throughout the day to speak up. Late in the afternoon as he approached his boos, finally he gathered the courage to speak up and ask for a raise in his salary. Much to his delight the boss agreed. The man was on the top of the world and when he came back home, he saw a beautiful dinner table, fine crockery set on the table, beautiful candle lit up. His wife had prepared a festive meal to celebrate the occasion. He guessed someone from the office might have tipped her off and informed her about it. Anyways he got into the kitchen, hugged her, gave her the good news and came and sat down to have his meal. Right there on the table was a card. The man picked up the card and read the contents. The card said, “Congratulation Darling! I knew you would get that salary raise. These things, the dinner table, the crockery, the candles, the fine meal, all of these things are to tell you, how much I LOVE YOU!” Prep by prep the lady served her husband and as she went back into the kitchen finally to bring the desert, from the pocket of her apron, fell another card unknown to her. The man picked up the card and as he read the contents of the card, he had tears in his eyes. On he card was written, “Don’t worry Darling! Even if you don not get that salary raise, you deserve much more than that. This dinner table, this crockery, these fine candles, this fantastic meal, all these things are simply meant to tell you how much I LOVE YOU!”

TOTAL ACCEPTANCE

TOTAL LOVE

TOTAL SUPPORT

Her love for him was unconditional. It didn’t depend on his success at work. In fact it was exactly the opposite. If he were to fail, if he were to be rejected, he would have needed that total acceptance and support all the more and she would be there by his side to support him, softening the blows, healing his wounds, believing in him, loving him. Even if we were to be rejected by the whole world, if we have one person in our lives who can totally accept us, totally believe in us, totally love us and totally support us, we can certainly achieve what we want to reach where we want to go. Therefore, surround yourselves with people who believe in you and accept you totally regardless of your successes or failures and also be that person for someone regardless of their successes or their failures.

WAYS TO LIVE BETTER

I’d like to share 3 stories that’ll touch you hearts and inspire you to reflect on your own life and live well.

STORY 1

After 72 hours shift at the firefighter went up to a grocery store to buy some stuff for his home, when a woman came up running to him and gave him a tight hug. Seeing the man uncomfortable, she realized that he hadn’t recognized her. She let got of him and with genuine tears of gratitude in her eyes and the most joyous smile on her face said; “Sir it was you who carried me out of the world trade center on sept 11 2001.”

So, ladies and gentlemen, you may never know what you are doing is touching someone’s life somewhere and is thus helping you live a life of purpose. Keep doing with dedication and commitment and may be completely unknown to you, someone out there is being benefited.

MORAL: Keep doing what you are doing! You may be touching someone’s life out there.

STORY 2

The 27 year old lady who was a breast cancer patient was laughing hysterically at the athics of her sweet 2 year old daughter, A man who knew her and watching the scene suddenly realized and thought to himself, “There will always be reasons to complain. I need to stop complaining about the wrong that’s happening in my life and start celebrating the precious moment of joy again.”

Guys, being consumed by pain is automatic but being happiness is a conscious choice. Let us choose smile to celebrate life.

MORAL: Pain is automatic; Happiness is a conscious choice. Smile and celebrate life.

STORY 3

A man, his 3 sons and 2 daughters stood around his wife’s hospital bed, as she uttered her last coherent words before she died. “This is what she said: ‘I feel so loved right now. We should have gotten together like this more often.”

You know what one of my dear friends once said in one of his shows- Professional achievement are temporary; they come and they go and the again come. But personal loss is permanent. Once a loved one is gone- they never back again.

MORAL: Press pause and spend time with the ones you love.

HOW TO FIND REAL LOVE

So many people have so many interesting definitions about what they think love is, right? And so, some people have it in terms of need, some people have it in terms of sexuality, some people have it in terms of control, dominance and success. Those are different experiences that really don’t lead to this concept called, “Love”.

Let me ask you a question, “Would you go out with you?”

Which is really the fundamental question so, I have a couple of theories about relationships that I think are really important and I use the same exact principles with my life. First of all, I will never work in a relationship. And I don’t think anybody should work in a relationship. I think if you’re working in a relationship something is not clicking. Something is not right. But, if you bring your best and the person that you’re with brings their best you celebrate your life together, then there’s constructive interference, there’s growth, there’s energy. If you’re not at your best and you show up, more than likely, you’re going to pick something or someone apart. And it’s better that you remove yourself for a period of time and get back into your heart and present yourself at your best. And so, if you’re not there and you need a mirror or reflection, then it’s good to ask, “Am I missing something? Am I not seeing myself in some way?” And then there’s a healthy conversation when you invite it. So, people always say, “I want a loving relationship”, but what they reality want is happiness.

DON’T TAKE LIFE SERIOUSLY

You know Bertrand Russell an Englishman. Bertrand Russell said if you beginning to think what you are doing is very important, you need to take holiday. So holiday doesn’t mean going somewhere. Holiday is everyday in those 24 hours you must take a holiday from your seriousness. Seriousness has come essentially because of your self importance. You hold as yourself as an important person. I want you to see you are like speck of dust in this existence. Tomorrow morning if you disappear for sure in USA nobody will miss you even down under they won’t bother much you know a handful of people they will also forget soon enough. Isn’t it so? Everything will happen wonderfully well even ,if you are not their. Every human being should be aware of this every moment of his life. It does not matter, what the whole world says about you. It doesn’t matter, how significant work you are doing. You must understand that tomorrow the world will go on fine without you. Just loosen up your life little bit, laugh a little more, involve yourself with people around you. Do things that you think is not so important. Don’t do thing that is very important. Do simple things very important. Doing very important thing in you life will become dead serous and don’t be dead now a time will come. This time is to alive.

…Don’t be serious about life, Your life is just to play…..

CLARITY OF GOAL

There is a beautiful story I heard of a lady called Florence Chadwick. In 1952 she aimed at conquering the Catalina channel. She was an astonishing swimmer. She has been the best long distance ocean swimmer in women history. She conquered the English channel two times, either way. And many other channels of the world. And then she made an attempt in the Catalina channel; shark infested area. In 1952 when she made an attempt, it turned out to be a foggy an misty day. A boat was accompanying her just in care of a shark attack, she has to be retrieved. And the mother was in the boat. Now it was quite a distance, maybe 50 miles or whatever. And she continued the whole way, until finally all she could see was fog and mist and she gave up. And when she gave up, she came to know later on, that the share was only 1&1/4 of a mile away. So, she said “The reason gave up was, I was not able to see my goal. Two months later she made another attempt. And this time she had absolute clarity, about how far the goal is, and she succeeded. So all of us must have that clarity. What is our goal? The highest realization. And what is the highest realization? The God realization. That is the focus of all of us. That is the meaning of our life. Every ‘mantra’ of every Vedic scripture is pointing in the direction of God. The Kathopanishad says, every veda mantra direct us to God; He is your goal. Every kriya, every yoga, every yog is aimed at vasudeva, the supreme lord. When the goal is there, you will be filled with enthusiasm to attain it.

THE DANGER WITH PROLONGED STRESS

The stress response is what your body innately does to return itself back or order. And we have three basics stresses. We have physical stress like accidents, injuries, falls, traumas. We have chemical stress, like bacteria and viruses, and hormones in foods and heavy metals and hangovers and blood sugar levels, and then we have emotional stress and that’s family tragedies, loss, job, finances. And all of those things knock our brain and body out of balance. All organisms in nature can tolerate short- term stress.

A pack of coyotes chases a deer. If the deer outruns the coyotes, 15 minutes later the turns back into grazing. She goes back into foraging and grazing and the stress response is over. But human beings, you know, we’re so unique because we can turn on the stress response just by thought alone. We could think about something that’s happened in our past or we can worry about something that’s gonna happen in future, and throughout alone, we turn on those same chemical. And when you turn on the stress response and you can’t turn it off, now you’re headed for some types of diseases, because no organism in nature can live in emergency mode for an extended period of time.

So to answer your question, if you can turn on the stress response just by thought alone, and it’s scientific fact that the hormones of stress down- regulate genes to create disease, then it means that your thoughts can literally make you sick. So the fundamental question is: if your thoughts can make you sick, is it possible that your thoughts can make you well?

The Power Of Repetition In Our Life

This is a time in history where it”s not enough to know. This is a time in history to know how, because information is so readily available, you can gain information. You don’t need an authority. You don’t need a priest. You don’t need a teacher. You don’t need a governor. And so many people are empowered. And the next most practical question is, how am i going to apply this to my life? Now, when you learn new things, you make new connections in your brain. That’s what learning is. But if you can’t remember what you learned, then you haven’t made any new connections that are sustainable, maintainable. So the more the person can repeat what they’ve learned, the more they’re installing the neurological hardware in their brain in preparation for the experience. And so now they’re priming their brain for the act. And when the experience happens, experience then enriches the circuitry in your brain. That’s what experience does. So, now you’re laying down even more neurological tracks. But the payoff is the chemical called the emotion. And the moment you feel unlimited, the moment you feel grateful, the moment you feel abundant, now you’re teaching your body chemically to understand what your mind is intellectually understand. So, knowledge is for the mind and experience is for the body. And now we’re embodying the truth of that philosophy. We’re literally signalling new genes in new ways and changing our genetic future. And if you’ve done it once, then, you’re an athlete you’ll be able to do it over and over again. And if you keep repeating it, you neurochemically condition your mind and body to begin to work as one. And the redundancy of the act over and over again, that conditions is the body to know how to do it better that the mind. Now it’s innate in you. It’s second nature. It’s easy. It’s familiar. It’s who you are. And so I think we start as philosopher, we initiate and we become initiates, and then we master it. You know, knowledge, experience, wisdom, mind, body, soul, learning it with your head, applying it with your hands, knowing it by heart. Thinking to doing to being.

How the law of attraction actively works?

So what most people do is they say, i want new house, new car, new relationship, I want a big bank account, private jet. You know ,they want all that stuff. And then they visualize that, but when they visualize it, they never get in touch with how it would feel if it happened. Infact they’re hypnotized and conditional into feeling the emotion when it happens. So, they may do a little, a little meditation or a liitle whatever, and they open their eyes and senses say it’s not there so what do they do? The experience  more lack, more separation. So, when you’re feeling lack and separation you try harder. And now they try matter to matter to try to produce the outcome because they’re feeling separate from their future. So, then thoughts are the electrical charge in the quantum feild and feeling produce a magnetic change in the quantum feild. And how you think and how you feel broadcasts electromagnetic energy influences every single atom in your life. The thought send a signal out, and the feeling draws the experience back to you. So, then if the person is living in anger, impatience, resentment, frustration and they’re holding the intention of their future, that’s mind and body in opposition. There’s no vibrational match between anything and their future because they’re saying why hasn’t it happened? And they’re waiting for their healing to begin so that they feel gratitude. They’re waiting for their success to feel abundance or empowerment. They’re waiting for their new relationship to feel love. Well, that’s the old model of reality of cause and effect, Newtonian physics waiting for someone outside to change how we feel inside. And if you’re living in that lack, and you consciously or unconsciously know that you’re creating your future, you’re creating more lack. And if you’re reacting to the people and conditions in your life that are all known to you, then your thoughts and feelings are equal to everything that you know. You keep creating the same life. So, then if you have to truly change, then close your eyes, disconnect from the environment, sit your body down, don’t get up and do anything. Don’t  be in the program of the future, the past and relax into the present moment, and now teach your body emotionally what that future feels like before it happens. Now why? Well, the stronger the emotion you feel from the future you’ re creating, the more you’re gonna pay attention to the pictures in your mind and you’ re gonna begin to remembering your past. So, then you have to stay in the feeling of the future in order for you to be aligned to that destiny. And if you lose the feeling because of traffic or a coworker and you start feeling another emotion, you just disconnect from the energy of your future. Now, you’re back to the energy of your past. And if you tell me it’s because of that person that caused it, now I’m going to say, oh, you’re back to unconscious program of being a victim. You’re telling me that you’re allowing something or someone outside of you to control how you feel and how you think. And that’s a program. So, then it takes great consciousness. It takes a great work. So when there’s a vibrational match between your energy and its synchronized with some potential in the quantam feild, now you no longer have to go anywhere to get it. Beacuse you’re connected to the field, you’re going to begin to draw events or experience to you. And they’re going to come in a way that you cannot predict. Because if you can predict them or anticipate them, they’re  nothing new. They have to surprise you. That’s the unknown, right. And that’s the fun part, because the brain learns by mistake and surprises. Why not a few surprises? And when that events lands in your lap and it comes out of no where, you will look back at all the betrayals, all the traumas, all the things that happened in your past, and you will not want to change one thing in your past, because it brought you to that moment. And that’s the moment the past no longer exists. So people are healing from their parts in a lot of ways when they do this work, and the side effect of all this is they feel so whole, so happy with themselves they no longer want anything, like all the things they want, they don’t really want the house, they’re happy with themselves you know like, I think that’s really a good place to start in life

How to overcome facebook addiction?

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9 Ways to Overcome Facebook Addiction

On a day like any other, I was standing at my desk working on a blog post, trying to come up with the appropriate words to write. Frustrated at my lack of progress, I turned, looked out the window for a moment then looked back to my screen.

My blog post had disappeared, but the infamous blue and white website we all know so well had replaced it.

Later that afternoon while working on another written piece, a co-worker walked into my office and interrupted me mid-sentence. After a quick conversation, I looked back at my Word document and found a sentence that looked approximately like this:

The efficiencies of quantum mechanics determine that sevfacebook

While that sentence is 100% fabricated, the example of what happened to the end of it is 100% true. For the second time that day, I had subconsciously typed the word “facebook” without realizing it, and it scared the crap out of me.

I knew it was time for a change.

What started out as a simple way to connect with college classmates has become an all encompassing communication hub where we get our news, updates on family members while spending a heck of a lot of our time.

The average user now spends about 50 minutes per day on Facebook.

I’d venture to guess that the 50 minutes aren’t in a solid block either, occurring in small 2-3 minute chunks as notifications come in throughout the day.

These bursts create small interruptions, pulling us away from what we may be doing, eating, working on, or creating. It’s no accident that Facebook brings us back as frequently as possible. For the company, our attention equals dollars.

Like any habit loop, Facebook is designed to work its way into our brain as a trigger-habit-reward cycle that is incredibly difficult to break.

At the surface, Facebook is a tool—not inherently good or bad—but its impact on our lives is determined by how we use it.

Imagine picking up a hammer 35 times per day and using it wherever you happen to be. When you need to drive in a nail, picking up a hammer makes a lot of sense. Otherwise, it would seem quite ridiculous.

Facebook is the hammer and connecting with friends and family is the nail. Everything else gets diminished by the hammer— our personal lives, intentions, and meaningful connections to the world.

If you feel like you’re losing the battle against the Facebook addiction twitch, there is help.

These suggestions to overcome Facebook addiction are ordered from least extreme to most, allowing you to choose the options that are right for you.

1 / Log out of the website

Make it so that you have to manually log in every time you want to use Facebook. Doing this will give you a few seconds to decide if you actually need to log on, creating intentional friction in the process. This strategy works best when on the computer, but can also work if you don’t use the Facebook app on your phone.

2 / Temporarily block the site

By using a productivity browser extension like Strict Workflow, you can hit a button that will block any websites you don’t want to visit for a specific duration of time. Once break time comes around, it will allow you to go to the sites of your choosing. Click the button again, and the sites will be blocked while you focus. These blockers help reduce the number of times you may bounce to Facebook during a focus period.


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3 / Turn off all app notifications

This is definitely recommended if you’re wanting to overcome Facebook addiction. Let’s face it, it’s hard not to check when you see there are notifications. And Facebook doesn’t hesitate to show you as many as possible to get you back on the scroll. It’s best when you intentionally decide to check Facebook, without hearing an alert that triggers your attention. Reduce distractions and the urge to check and scroll by turning off all notifications in the app.

4 / Delete the app

While you can still use your mobile browser to check Facebook, doing this significantly reduces the notifications. The app is made to be as low friction as possible and deleting it will help you avoid using Facebook when it’s less appropriate. Not having the app helps break the twitch of being able to check the site so quickly. Even more powerful is if you use the first tip and log out of the site, forcing yourself to log in on your phone.

5 / Kill the newsfeed algorithm

If you’re habitually checking Facebook, one way to reduce the desire to do so is to have no new content come up when you do. You can use a browser extension called FB Purity to automatically reorder the newsfeed into chronological order. That way, Facebook won’t show you new content every time you open the site. And as a result, it will be much less interesting when you do visit and scroll.

6 / Block the newsfeed completely

Using the same FB Purity app, you can select an option to delete the newsfeed all together. It will show up as a blank space in the middle of your screen and won’t entice you to scroll down if you need to log on to Facebook to post something or check on one of your business pages. You can take care of whatever you might need to for work and then be done with it.

7 / Deactivate your account

Unfortunately, Facebook has made it ridiculously easy to reactivate your account. All you have to do is just log in again. But, the best way to break a habit cycle is to detox and rewire your brain from that habit. I’ve found that it takes at least five to seven days to break the initial ‘twitch’ habit cycle, so commit to at least that. Deactivate your account and log back in when you’re ready.

8 / Delete your account

You have to dig around in your Facebook settings to find this option. But if you feel that Facebook isn’t benefiting you in meaningful ways, just get rid of it. If you want to keep your content, you can download your entire Facebook history in one small zip file and backup everything you’ve ever posted. To continuing sharing with others, you can start a blog where people can find you with a quick Google search and where you can share your life updates and learnings.

9 / Throw your phone and computer into a ravine

If all else fails, find a property on which to homestead, grow your own food, and throw your electronic devices into the fire river of Mordor. There are fewer things better than some quality time in nature to help beat an addiction. Perhaps we need to take some extreme measures to ensure our own progress. Getting rid of your electronic devices is a solid move in overcoming extreme Facebook addiction.

Facebook is a tool that just like any other, should benefit us when we use it. When used intentionally, it’s a valuable resource that allows you to connect in meaningful ways. If you feel like it’s controlling your life more than it should, use the strategies above to overcome Facebook addiction.

simplest way to become self made billioniare

According to self-made millionaire David Bach, getting rich boils down to paying yourself first.

More specifically, he advises you save the equivalent of one hour’s worth of income each day, he writes in “The Automatic Millionaire”: “If you’re not saving that much of your income right now, you are working too much for others and not enough for yourself.”

How many hours are you actually working for yourself? Fill in the blanks of Bach’s formula to find out:

Last week, I worked a total of ____ hours.
I earn $____ an hour (before taxes).
Last week, I put aside $____ for my retirement.
So last week, I worked ____ hours for myself.

Bach breaks down his formula: “To figure out how many hours you worked for yourself last week, you first need to ask yourself how much money you saved last week. If your answer is zero, then you worked zero hours for yourself last week.

“If, however, you did save something last week, then divide the amount of money you put aside for your retirement last week by your hourly income.”

Self-made millionaire and bestselling author David Bach

Self-made millionaire and bestselling author David BachCourtesy of David Bach

Let’s say you earn $50,000 a year. That’s about $1,000 a week, if you take two weeks off for vacation, or $25 a hour, if you work 40 hours a week. If you put aside $50 for retirement last week, you worked two hours for yourself last week. (That’s $50 divided by $25.)

According to Bach, this person should be saving $25 a day, or $125 a week.

“The answer you got can tell you a lot about the kind of future you can expect to have,” the self-made millionaire says. “Most people work less than one hour a week for themselves. And that’s not nearly enough.”
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If you’d rather think about savings as a percentage, one hour’s worth of income comes out to roughly 10% of your gross income, Bach says.

He provides another “pay yourself first formula” to give you an idea of what your financial standing will look like depending on how much you save. Of course, “everyone’s life is different,” he notes, “but this should give you a benchmark to shoot for or plan around.”

TO BE …

Dead broke: “Don’t pay yourself first,” writes Bach. “Spend more than you make. Borrow money on credit cards and carry debt you can’t pay off.”

Poor: “Think about paying yourself first, but don’t actually do it,” he writes. “Spend everything you make each month and save nothing. Keep telling yourself, ‘Someday…’”

Middle class: Save 5% to 10% of your pretax income in a tax-advantaged retirement account.

Upper middle class: Save 10% to 15% of your pretax income in a tax-advantaged retirement account.

Rich: Save 15% to 20% of your pretax income in a tax-advantaged retirement account.

Rich enough to retire early: Save 20% or more of your pretax income in a tax-advantaged retirement account.

How much will you choose to pay yourself first?