A man died. When he realized it, he saw God coming closer with a suitcase in his hand. God said, “Alright son, It’s time to go.” The man got surprised and responded, “Now? So soon? I had a lot of plans..” I’m sorry but its time to go, said God.
The man asked, “what do you have in that suitcase?” God answered. “Your belongings.” My belongings? You mean my things, my clothes, my money? God answered, “those things were not yours. They belong to the earth.” Is it my memories? the man asked. God answered, “those never belonged to you. They belonged to time.” The man asked, is it my talents? God answered, “those were never yours. They belong to the circumstances.”
The man asked, is it my friends and family? God answered, “I’m sorry they were never yours. They belonged to the path.” Is it my wife and son? God answered, “They were never yours. They belonged to your heart.” “Is it my body?” God answered, “That was never yours. It belonged to the dust.” Is it my soul? God answered, “No, that is mine.”
Full of fear, the man took the suitcase from God and opened it just to find out the suitcase was empty. With a tear coming down his cheek the man said, “I never had anything?”
God answered, “This is correct. Nothing belonged to you; Life is just a moment. Only the moments you lived were yours. Nothing else.” So, live for now. Live your life. Don’t forget to be happy. That is the only thing that matters.
So my dear brother and sisters, we must understand the truth that all the material things around us are not permanent. We will not take anything with us from here. Material things and everything else that we fight for stay here. Then why do people have so much ego on their property, wealth, and other material possessions. What do they boast of so much? What is ours here, nothing.
We came empty-handed and will go empty-handed as well. Let me admit one thing- we humans are living a material life with this material body, and for this has to be taken care of, we need materials from this material world. Enjoy them all but the same time stay detached. keeping it in mind that everything here is valueless.
Therefore, let us learn to detach ourselves from the perishable things. When we practice this we gradually will realize that everlasting joy is God. I hope you learn something from this inspirational story.
Finding inner peace in the modern world is a significant challenge.
Everything about modern society feels like an obstacle to experiencing peace of mind.
But there are ways to find and maintain inner peace.
If you are working 8 hours everyday, 5 days a week, you need to find balance and keep your sanity intact.
Inner peace is a choice, and many of your habits determine how much peace you experience in your daily life.
Balance is not only a thing you must achieve but should become a lifestyle.
To help, here are 9 ways to experience inner peace and enjoy life on a deeper, more satisfying level:
1. Focus your attention on those things you can control
Why worry about those things you can’t control? It sours your mood and makes you less capable.
Literally ask yourself, “Is this something I can control? Will worrying be beneficial in any way?
As a human being, you have to know which things are within your control. Anything beyond that can distract you and put stress in your life.
2. Spend time in nature
The original humans didn’t live in a 3-bedroom ranch and eat microwave popcorn.
Take a long walk in the park or spend a weekend camping. You’ll feel dramatically different compared to sitting in a building 24 hours every day.
There’s something peaceful about spending time among the birds and the trees.
3. Be true to yourself
Few things are more disconcerting than living a life you weren’t meant to live.
It continuously gnaws away at you. Live a life that’s congruent with your values.
It’s too easy to allow society dictate your choices.
You don’t have to spend your life on a career that’s impressive to others. You don’t have to chase after a fancy house.
Make your own decisions about what’s most important to you.
4. Mind What you Eat
You might not realize how bad you feel because you’re so used to it.
Try eating the way you know you should for just a week. Note the change in how you feel. Research foods that can improve memory, increase focus and help make you feel good about yourself.
Now try eating some junk food and see what happens to your mood and your overall sense of well-being. You’ll feel like you’ve been run over by truck. Say no to junk foods and sodas.
5. Exercise on a regular basis
Have you ever noticed how great you feel as you’re walking out of the gym?
Exercise feels good, and you feel good about yourself for doing it.
Exercise is not only good for the body but also good for your brain.
6. Do Good Deeds
This is a great way to take your focus off of yourself.
When you do good deeds, you become more aware that others are struggling.
When you are kind, you receive kindness in return. You’ll also feel a sense of pride and satisfaction when you help someone else.
The golden rule says: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
7. Be assertive
Be open and forward with your needs and desires. You’re not only more likely to get what you want, but you’ll also feel more in control of your life.
Don’t let others stand in your way, take full charge of your life. You are in control.
Meditation is calming.
Meditation helps you see life and its challenges more accurately.
Things are often better than they seem. Meditation can prevent your mind from making a situation seem worse than it really is.
If it seems that what you’re doing is stressing you out after hours of working, stop and meditate for a few moments and see the difference it does to your mind afterwards.
9. Avoid trying to change others
You’ll have as much success trying to change the weather as you do trying to change other people.
It’s hard enough to change yourself. How will you ever manage to change someone else?
It’s important to take care of yourself mentally and physically.
Eat properly, exercise, and be true to yourself. There’s no need to please other people. Be assertive and take control of your life. Avoid chasing after those things that society has determined to be important.
1. Just show up. Say you want to run a marathon, but have no prior experience. The first step is lacing up you shoes and hitting the pavement. Even if you only make it half a mile on your first training run, you’ll be about 2% closer to your ultimate goal than if you didn’t put in any work at all.
2. Start from the beginning. You don’t just happen to stumble upon the best version of yourself. You need to start from the beginning and take a high number of small steps in order to become what you envision.
3. Recognize that the best version of yourself should be your vision, not anybody else’s. Don’t waste energy trying to live up to what somebody else wants you to be.
4. Stop looking for a secret trick. There is no miraculous shortcut to the better version of yourself.
5. Use Twitter to network. It’s never been easier to get in touch with influential and powerful people. Earlier in my career, I reached out a high-level executive of a company I was interested in. He was hosting an AMA session on Twitter. I asked him for advice about how to get hired for his company, and not only did he reply with some helpful tips, he also connected me with specific people at the company about an open position.
6. Don’t sweat the details. Just make sure that you’re moving in the right general direction. You probably don’t have the knowledge you need today to know the shortest path to your happiness five years from today. But you probably have some idea about how to move in the right direction. Take those steps.
7. Recognize the opportunity at hand. The Internet has fundamentally changed everything. Previously, knowledge was locked away in the minds of industry experts and in the pages of books that you needed to buy or check out from a library. But now, it’s easier than ever to learn new skills. This is essential to becoming the best version of yourself.
8. Write on Medium: Translating your thoughts into written narratives pushes you to think about the ideas in your head at a much deeper level.
9. Don’t count the hours. They don’t matter. Think about the last time you ran on a treadmill. If you looked down at the timer every few seconds, you probably didn’t enjoy your run. In turn, this made it far more difficult to run far.
But what if you took the opposite approach? You plugged in your headphones, lost yourself in the music, and took it one stride at a time….while resisting any temptation to look at the timer at all. If you did this, you probably discovered that you enjoyed the run and made it pretty far. Counting hours just slows you down from reaching your goal.
10. Accept help from other people. Don’t let your pride get in the way. Most successful people needed help along the way, too.
11. Launch a personal website. Maintaining an online presence of yourself pushes you to become the best possible version of you.
12. Write answers on Quora. Quora is an amazing place to help and inspire people at scale.
13. Ignore the social media scoreboard. People depict an extremely exaggerated version of life on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and other social platforms. We only share the good things, not the bad. So when you compare yourself to what you see on social media, you’re just hurting yourself.
14. Celebrate the small wins. Appreciating what you’re doing in the present gives you the motivation to keep making strides towards your ultimate goal.
15. Stop pretending to know things you don’t know. You’ll never learn anything if you pretend to already to already know everything.
16. Embrace failure. You can’t become the best version of yourself by playing it safe. Heck, getting fired could even be the best thing that ever happened to you, just look at Noah Kagan (employee 30 at Facebook).
17. Call your family. This is just the decent thing to do. But you can also learn lessons from your family that aren’t available through any Google search and aren’t accessible to pretty much anyone else in the world.
18. Exercise in the morning. Once I started doing this in the morning, I became far more focused and relaxed throughout the day. Science backs that up, too.
19. Create a side project. Doing something productive outside of work that makes you happy helps you become a better version of yourself. So, whatever it is…an app, film, album, whatever….start doing it on your nights and weekends. And who knows? It might just turn into a full-time job that you love.
20. Help other people become the best version of themselves. Pay it forward. Doing so keep you motivated on your own path, and you’ll find that the lasting connections you build from helping others will greatly benefit you moving forward.
21. Launch your MVP early. If you’re not satisfied with the current version of yourself, then the quickest way to solve the problem is to begin working towards the better version today. There is no “right time” to get started.
It can be tempting to think about the best version of yourself as some intangible point in the future. You know, the one where you are:
Doing what you love
Existing as an overall happier person
You see your current self as the regular season, and you’re just waiting for the playoffs to start before giving it your all.
But if all you do is wait for the best version of yourself to happen, you’re forever going to be stuck with the current version.
So, how do you launch the best version of yourself? Start making progress today.
Sometimes, you need to make a big change in order to unleash the best version of yourself. If one thought recently entered your mind, then it’s time to do it.
Why are we collectively dealing with so much anxiety?
Understanding the roots of your anxiety is essential and also realising that it is not your fault is the first step to moving away from its crippling effects on your life. Quite simply, you are programmed to survive and you, like us all, have a negative bias that keeps us alive and protects us from danger. This negative bias is, therefore, strong and for good reason; it is a fundamental part of our survival and must be maintained so that if we are confronted with a threat or trauma we have a strong resource of this energy to help us cope in times of genuine need.
Think of this as similar to having savings in the bank which can be used in the case of an emergency. However, this out of date system is constantly being triggered due to the pressures of modern life. Cortisol (the stress hormone) is persistently triggered and released leaving many of us living in a constant state of fight or flight. This has developed into a pattern of automatic response; we have developed the habit of anxiety.
TIP 2 – Understand your subconscious power
Your subconscious mind is very open and suggestible and you have a lot more control over it than you may imagine, in fact, you have complete authority over soothing anxiety and focusing on being calm and confident. Due to the highly impressionable nature of your subconscious, it is important to learn how to communicate with it. If you think your subconscious mind is like a small child and your conscious mind is the parent, everything that you say conditions a response of either fear or love depending on your thoughts, wouldn’t you choose to be kinder and calmer to the child? Becoming more positive is not about changing who you are, it is about accessing a part of you that is already there. It is about tapping into your higher self, best self or executive self – the part of you that is free and lives moment to moment. This is the power of programming your subconscious to focus on love rather than fear which is what drives anxiety.
TIP 3 – Discover a positive self-concept
The way you speak about your life (in your own mind and out loud to others) is essentially a way of creating your own story, both to yourself and to other people. The words that you use to describe yourself, your family, where you live and the work that you do are important. These words form the framework of how you feel about yourself and the life that you have created. How you describe yourself, how you describe your family, your home and your work. This is the story you tell yourself and has a huge impact on your daily life. YOU are telling the story to yourself. Make it a good one!
How to apply a positive self-concept in everyday life – First thing in the morning and last thing at night visualise yourself going through each day the way you wish to think, feel and behave. As humans, we are unique in our ability to imagine. When you close your eyes and imagine something, your body will respond to the images in your mind as if the event were really happening. Each day acknowledge what was good about the day and make a point of telling your family and friends about the good or funny things that happened. The mind forms memories through experiences so it is useful to acknowledge positive events and to build on these.
TIP 4 – Learn to love and parent yourself
Becoming an adult is essentially about shifting the power and responsibility from your parents to yourself. It is about letting go of any real or perceived hurt and pain from the past and realising that to feel safe, secure and loved you must cultivate these feelings from within. The full realisation that you are responsible for yourself is a fundamental step for mental well-being. You have everything you need within yourself, you are complete and whole. Feeling you are worthy of care and love and providing that for yourself is liberation. The most important relationship that you will ever have is the one you have with yourself.
Stop the habit of negative thinking – Negative thinking is a habit and habits must be broken when dealing with anxiety. Negative self-talk (the inner critic) is often a habit of which we are not even aware. By watching your thoughts you can begin to learn a lot about how your mind operates and the effect your thoughts have on your feelings and ultimately how you behave. When you tell yourself that you have no energy, or that you are fed up, stressed and frustrated then that is what you will feel. Does this sound familiar?
Top love tip – Have a photograph of yourself as a child somewhere you can see it every day. Each time you see it remember that your inner child is still within you. Always choose to speak to yourself with compassion and understanding, as you would speak to a child that needed your help.
TIP 5 – Start caring for yourself
The habit of practical self-care is essential to implement when dealing with anxiety. Your body responds well to having its needs met and soon recognises the rewards of a healthy self-care habit. After a period the body craves what the body gets. For example, if your body is regularly exercised it will begin to automatically expect this and feels deprived if it doesn’t get it.
If you have ever had a pet, let alone a child, then you will know how much care and attention is needed to look after them. There is an episode of TheSimpsons where Homer is surprised his dog is so angry. ‘Hey, why is the dog so angry?’ Homer asks, and Bart replies, ‘You never feed him, take him for a walk, or let him go out to pee.’ We wouldn‘t expect our children to wake after a restless four or five hours sleep, forget to feed them breakfast and send them off to school in the morning in the hope that they have time to grab a quick snack at lunch if they have time to stop their school work. Yet many of us treat ourselves in this manner and wonder why we feel worn out, exhausted and struggle to think clearly. It is important to emphasise the necessity of choosing and establishing a self-care programme that works for you. The words to note here are ‘self’ and ‘care’. When you care for yourself you love yourself and have a healthy respect for serving your own needs. With this comes a deep sense of love and compassion.
Top care tip – Your body always knows what it needs and when you slow down the mind we can hear the message it is giving you. Listen actively to the signals from your body each day and develop an open relationship between your body and mind, so that both may flourish.
once upon a time, there was a very lazy man who would always look for an easier way to feed himself. One day while he was searching to eat, he saw the fruit farm. He looked around and didn’t see anyone guarding the fruits on the tree, so he quickly decided to steal some fruits. But as soon as he walked into the farm and started to climb the tree, the farmer saw him and started coming at him to catch him.
The lazy man saw the farmer coming at him with a stick, he got afraid and ran towards the forest nearby and went inside it to hide. After sometime when he felt he started to move on from the forest and while passing through, he saw the wonderful scene.
There was a fox. It had only two legs and still was crawling on them happily. The lazy man thought, how can this fox stay alive in such condition?! The fox can’t run, how he must be able to feed himself or stay alive from the threat of other animals.
Suddenly, he saw the lion coming towards the fox with a piece of meat already in his mouth. All the animals ran away and the lazy man climbed up on the tree to save himself but, the fox stayed there only, he didn’t have the ability to run on two legs. But what happened next surprised the lazy man. The lion left a piece of meat which was in his mouth for the fox! The lazy man felt happy seeing God’s play. He thought the who is the creator of all, always has a plan set to take care of what he created. He felt that God must have something planned for him too.
So, he left that place and sat somewhere away alone waiting for someone to feed him too. As time starting to pass, he kept looking at the road, waiting for his food. He waited there for two days without any food! Finally, he couldn’t bear the hunger and started to leave. He met an old sage on the way. He told everything happened to the sage. The sage first gave him some food and water.
After having it, the lazy man asked the sage, “oh wise one, the God had shown his mercy on the crippled fox, but why the god was so cruel to me?” The old sage with a smile said, “True that the creator has a plan for everyone. You are obviously a part of the god’s plan. But son, you took his sign in a wrong way. He didn’t want you to be like the fox. He wanted you to be like the Lion.”
Now what is the moral of the story ,
Often we misunderstand the signs. God has given everyone a strength and ability to do their part. Always learn to see things in a positive way and see yourself in a strong position to help the ones who need. Don’t go for the easy choice. Make a right choice.
The only reason any person does not have enough money is because they are blocking money from coming to them with their thoughts. Every negative thought, feeling or emotion is blocking your good from coming to you, and that includes money. It is not that the money is being kept from you by the universe, because all the money you require exists right now in the invisible. If you do not have enough, it is because you are stopping the flow of money coming to you, and you are doing that with your thoughts. You must tip the balance of your thoughts from lack-of-money to more-than-enough-money. Think more thoughts of abundance than of lack, and you have tipped the balance.
When you need money, it is a powerful feeling within you, and so of course through the law of attraction you will continue to attract needing money.
I can speak from experience about money, because just before I discovered The Secret my accountants told me that my company had suffered a major loss that year, and in three months it would be history. After then years of hard work, my company was about to slip through my fingers. And as I needed more money to save my company, things just got worse. There seemed no way out.
Then I discovered The Secret, and everything in my life -including the state of my company -was totally transformed, because I changed the way I was thinking. As my accountants continued to fuss about the figures and focus on that, I kept my mind focused on abundance and all being well. I knew with every fiber of my being that the universe would provide, and it did. It provided in ways I could not have imagined. I had my moments of doubt, nut when the doubt came I immediately moved my thoughts to the outcome of what I wanted. I gave thanks for it, I felt the joy of it, and I believed!
I want to let you in on a secret to The Secret. The shortcut to anything you want in your life is to BE and FEEL happy now! It is the fastest way to bring money and anything else you want into your life. Focus on radiating out into the Universe those feelings of joy and happiness. When you do that, you will attract back to you all things that bring you joy and happiness, which will not only include an abundance of money, nut everything else you are wanting. You must radiate out the signal to bring back what you want. As you radiate out those feelings of happiness, they will be sent back to you as the pictures and experiences of your life. The law of attraction is reflecting back your innermost thoughts and feelings as your life.
Vijay – Kartik – Ramesh and Mahesh were four brothers. At the time of their father’s death, the four of them had divided everything equally they had, house, land, money and jewellery. Brother Mahesh was jealous of his three brothers. He wanted the other three to loose their wealth and to wander on the streets as poor beggars.
One day he met a gang of robbers and an idea stroke to his mind. He gave them the addresses of his brothers and told them to rob on his brothers houses. Each month the three brother’s house was looted. The robbers came to Mahesh’s house in the fourth month after three months. He looked at them and said, “Thank you for robbing the houses of my three brothers. I will give you a reward.”
“What you have done is reward to us. We will take what we need from your house. Give us the key of the locker” said the robbers. Mahesh replied, “What kind of money and jewellery do I have, when I have lost all my possessions and I am extremely poor?” The robbers replied, “Your brothers have told us all the details of where your money and jewellery are hidden. So give us the key properly. If you no we we shall show our robbery or murder?
Threatened, and he thought that if he is alive only he can earn money and the jewels. So he gave them the locker key. The robbers took all the money and jewel from him and left. Mahesh realized that he lost everything because he was jealous and aiming on his brothers to lose everything and fall, and he felt guilty on his mistake.
So, my dear brothers and sisters, jealousy causes nothing but downfall of a man. Jealousy can rear its head in any relationship. It’s a destructive emotion; it has the potential to suffocate a happy partnership and break down the trust that was there. Jealousy can cause you to experience a range of feelings, from insecurity and suspicion to rejection, fear, anger or anxiety.
Jealousy can cause you to feel insecure about yourself. If you have the quality of jealousy, you will not make progress in any field.
So how to overcome our jealousy? By understanding that our abilities and the abilities of others come from Krishna and they belong to Krishna. In the Bhagavad Gita, 10th chapter, 42 shloka, Lord Krishna says- “Know that all opulent, beautiful and glorious creations spring from but a spark of My Splendor.”
So, that means whatever abilities we have, if I look good, if I speak well, if I have a very good memory, if I have a lot of wealth, somebody else has those things more than me, whatever others have, is a gift from Krishna. So, if we understand that whatever possessions anyone has, they belong to Krishna, we can never be jealous of anyone.
To have expectations from your partner as long as they are attainable is fine. But, to have irrational expectations is only going to make things worse for you in this relationship. Here are 5 unrealistic expectations that you should never have from your partner in a relationship.
There is no secret to a smooth and happy relationship. All relationships go through turmoil, ups and downs, highs and lows. Nevertheless, we can always try to save the relationship from not drowning by avoiding certain mistakes and silly expectations from our partner.
It is normal to have some expectations from your partner like loving you, keeping you happy and safe, making time for you. However, where it goes wrong is when either of the two starts expecting more out of the ordinary. A good relationship requires effort, time, affection and commitment from both partners equally. If these things are in check, there is nothing more you should be wanting out of your relationship.
Here are 5 expectations you should not have from your partner:
They will never look at anyone else
Let’s not forget that your partner is only human and that admiring beauty wherever you go is part of human nature. Just because they are in a relationship with you doesn’t mean they will stop noticing others. This doesn’t mean they are being unfaithful or cheating on you. Getting bothered by this is only going to make things difficult for you because it will only prove that you don’t trust them. In such situations, you can join along and admire the beauty of the person who they are noticing too. Remember, only you can change things around by giving it a new perspective if you choose to, else you will always be miserable in your relationship.
2. They will always agree to everything you say
It is good to have a different perspective and a different approach sometimes. To think that they will always be supportive of your every decision or that they will happily agree to everything you say only proves that you are dating a spineless person and not someone who loves you dearly. Only a fool would follow everything you say or do blindly, it is not possible for anyone to be in acceptance with what you do all the time.
3. There will never be a fight
It is important to know fights and light banter or arguments are part of a healthy relationship. Fights and few arguments are an important aspect of a relationship to keep it going and spark things up. It makes you want each other more and brings you closer.
4. They will always be romantic
Apart from making you happy, they have plenty of other things to take care of. They will in the process sometimes lose their ability to make you smile or keep you happy 24×7 as they too need some time to relax and recharge. They have bad days too and sometimes they are just not up for it. In such times, it is better to be patient and understanding and take a step back rather than expecting them to deliver day in and day out.
5. They will always make time for you
Learn to appreciate what you have and the little moments in life. Your partner will not always be available for you and that is completely fine because they have a life besides you as well. They have a family and friends with whom they need to spend time. They might have a job that keeps them busy or another duty that requires their attention. Hence, it is best to give each other space and time to learn and grow individually while being together.
Sometimes we meet someone and we just know: it’s love. However, it isn’t always easy to see the wonderful qualities of the people right there in front of us. Therefore, it is good to know about some of the strategies that can make it more likely that someone will fall in love with you. Just remember that there is no way to make someone fall in love with you. All you can do is try to create the right conditions and see what happens.
Take good care of yourself. Physical appearance plays a huge role in whether or not someone will be attracted to someone else.How well you care for your physical health and appearance is something that people can see right away, so it is worth putting some extra time and energy into while you are trying to attract someone. People will notice if you don’t care for yourself and this may make someone lose interest.
To ensure that you look your best, exercise, eat right, practice proper hygiene and wear clean, flattering clothing.
Don’t be afraid to capture attention.
2. Make a name for yourself, do something that they will remember and show them that there is so much more to you than just a pretty smile.
Make sure that your personality shines through and he/she knows about your likes and dislikes. Being passionate about something is very attractive and others will take notice.
Be proud of your accomplishments and confident in your abilities. Confidence is something that people admire, so don’t be shy about what you have accomplished.
3. Be kind. Treat others the way you want to be treated. It may sound cheesy, but it’s true. If you want others to treat you with care and respect, you should start treating others this way, too. People are more likely to fall in love with other people who have great personalities, who are polite, and who are kind to others.
4. Show your flaws. Let him or her see how far you’ve come. For example, if you are fit and active now, but you used to be a couch potato, tell the person about your transformation. Revealing some of your past shortcomings to someone will allow him or her to see the real you and appreciate you even more.
Are you attracted to a guy that you have been talking to but don’t know how to make him fall for you? Then follow these 4 ways to make him fall in love with you and to win his heart over text.
So you have been talking to this guy who you absolutely adore. But owing to the pandemic and the beginning of another lockdown situation, you can’t meet him. All you can do is try to somehow make him fall for you and that is, over text! Yes, we know it can be tough but texting is a powerful tool and you can use it to your advantage in situations like these.
Moreover, when you text a person, you have the luxury to think your responses through and take your own time in replying to them. So here are 4 simple yet effective ways to make a guy fall for you over text!
Be intriguing: Nothing attracts a man more quickly than a woman who is intriguing and mysterious. So simply be unique, different, and unpredictable with him over text. You should come across as an interesting person who doesn’t follow a dull routine and like to keep things fresh and spontaneous.
2. Be cute: Once you are successfully able to attract him with your unpredictability, send him cute texts and flirt with him a little without being too direct. Send him texts at random hours of the day to let him know that you are thinking about him.
3. Tease him: Poke him a little and tease him in a good-natured and non-offensive way. Try to make him laugh by pointing out his quirky yet cute habits and be playful. This will help build attraction and will help him see your fun, confident and uninhibited side.
4. Do not over text: Lastly, never over text him. If you have sent him a text but for some reason, he hasn’t replied to it for quite some time, resist the temptation to text him again or ask about his whereabouts. Have patience and know that he will eventually text you back.